Many people on the path of getting sober and who have even been sober for a while might easily get stuck in a pattern, a comfort zone that keeps life revolving in the same old circles.
For instance, maybe you’ve been sober for a year. Your life has reached a healthy, stable, and sober level. And this is good! You wake up, eat your breakfast, go to an AA meeting or support group, go to work, come home, have dinner, go to another sober living meeting, come home, and go to bed. The next day you start the whole routine all over again. It’s wonderful that you’re sober and it’s a comfortable life, and it’s certainly miles ahead of where you were when you using.
However, you might at some point want more. Besides, there’s a saying in the mental health field that addicts are very spiritual people, they’re just knocking on the wrong door. In other words, addicts are typically passionate, fervent, and fiery people. They have a fire inside that needs to be expressed and shared. They have passion and an enthusiasm for life. Learn more about sober living in Los Angeles on the site here.
Previously, while still using, some addicts might have experienced that passion through promiscuity, risky behavior, or wild nights out on the town. That high level of life force might have come out through a quick sense of humor or a tendency to flirt. But where did all that fire go?
Likely it got channeled into getting and staying sober. And although there might always be a need to continue to do that, the passion for life is still there and continues to want its expression. Finding new and healthy ways to express it can be another gift that sobriety brings.
For example, Stephen who lives Venice Beach was once caught in the powerlessness of an alcohol addiction. He was living wildly most nights and being promiscuous. He was often the life of the party, with many friends who loved his witty style. Eventually, he found himself at a low point and knew he needed to get sober. He also felt his growing maturity, which told him that he needed to stop acting as though he were in high school. Two years after he made that decision, however, he found himself in the same old cycle described above. He was going to two to three meetings a day, which he attended around his work, sleep, and eat schedule. At one point, he was trying to figure out what happened to him. He was wondering where did all his passion for life go? To him, although he was sober, life was boring and dull.
Then, he realized that he could use that life energy wisely. He could apply it towards helping others, towards encouraging addicts to get and stay sober, towards making his life meaningful and purposeful. He began to write articles for the local papers, for websites that promoted sobriety, and for another site, which he created that became a roadmap for others in recovery.
Sober living doesn’t have to be boring. For anyone who is passionate, sure that passion and fire at first needs to go towards recovery and preventing relapse. But at some point, perhaps one or two or three years into sobriety, the fervor for life can be channeled into achieving what you want and creating a purposeful and meaningful life.